Understanding the Differences—and Why They Matter
When people think of ADHD, they often imagine a boy bouncing off the walls—talkative, impulsive, always on the move. But ADHD doesn’t have just one look. In fact, it can show up very differently in girls—and often goes unnoticed.
ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) affects a child’s ability to focus, manage energy, and control impulses. While it impacts children of all genders, the symptoms can appear in different ways depending on the child. Recognizing those differences is key to getting kids the right support.
👦 ADHD in Boys
The More “Obvious” Signs
Boys are more likely to be referred for evaluation simply because their symptoms tend to be more external—and harder to miss in a classroom setting.
Common signs in boys include:
- Hyperactivity: Constant fidgeting, running, or difficulty staying seated
- Impulsivity: Blurting out answers, interrupting others, acting without thinking
- Inattention: Difficulty following instructions, zoning out, or losing track of tasks
These behaviors often lead to earlier diagnosis—but that doesn’t mean boys always get the support they need right away.
👧 ADHD in Girls
The “Quieter” Presentation
Girls with ADHD are often overlooked because their symptoms tend to be internalized. They might not be disruptive, but that doesn’t mean they’re not struggling.
Signs of ADHD in girls may include:
- Inattention: Appearing “spacey,” forgetful, or easily distracted
- Verbal impulsivity: Talking excessively, jumping from topic to topic
- Emotional sensitivity: Mood swings, low self-esteem, or anxious feelings
Because these signs can be subtle, girls are more likely to be misdiagnosed—or not diagnosed at all.
đź’ˇ Why the Differences Matter
When ADHD doesn’t fit the stereotypical mold, it can be easy to overlook. Girls may be labeled as “dreamy,” “emotional,” or “just not trying hard enough”—when in reality, they’re facing the same executive functioning challenges as boys.
Delayed diagnosis means girls often miss out on early interventions that could help them thrive academically, socially, and emotionally. The earlier we understand what’s really going on, the better we can support every child.
🛠️ How to Support a Child with ADHD
No matter how ADHD presents, support can make a big difference. Here are some simple but powerful strategies:
âś… Create Consistent Routines
Children with ADHD benefit from predictability. Daily routines reduce overwhelm and help with transitions.
đź’¬ Use Positive Reinforcement
Praise effort over outcomes. Small successes build confidence and motivation over time.
🧏 Foster Open Communication
Let your child know you’re listening. Give them space to express themselves without judgment.
👩‍⚕️ Seek Professional Guidance
If you suspect ADHD, a comprehensive evaluation can offer clarity—and point the way toward helpful tools and strategies.
✨ Final Thoughts
ADHD doesn’t always look like we expect. Boys and girls may show different signs, but both deserve to be seen, understood, and supported.
By recognizing the full spectrum of ADHD symptoms—and responding with compassion and care—we give our children the best chance to succeed at home, at school, and beyond.
